A Divided Life a memoir of hiding from myself, survival, and becoming whole by Todd Boler

What does it mean to survive by hiding — and what does it cost? A Divided Life is a deeply personal memoir about growing up in a time and place where silence felt necessary. In a small Midwestern town shaped by faith, family expectations, and unspoken rules, Todd Boler learned how to divide himself in order to endure. Outwardly, life continued as expected. Inwardly, pieces of the self were carefully guarded. Rather than centering on a single moment of revelation, this memoir follows the quieter, more complicated path of endurance: how coping strategies form, how they protect, and how they eventually limit the life they were meant to save. Through friendships, belief, longing, and loss, the book explores the emotional and psychological cost of living divided from oneself. Neither polemic nor manifesto, A Divided Life offers no easy answers— only honesty, reflection, and recognition. It speaks to anyone who has lived with invisible struggle while appearing “fine,” and who wonders what it might mean to finally live whole.

Adult • Nonfiction • Diversity Representation/LGBTQ+ • Diversity Representation/Own Voices • Diversity Representation/LGBTQ+/Own Voices

Length: 80,000 words (about 229 pages)